New Year often makes us feel it is about time we made some positive changes to our lives, maybe lose some weight, give up smoking, increase your exercise, eat healthier.
We set new Goals with the best intention of achieving them, and then a couple of weeks later something happens which sets us right back to where we started.
Maybe an emotional upset of some kind or stressful events at work or at home. This may then trigger some underlying negative feelings that we have about ourselves - so what do we do? We reach for something that may comfort us!
We tell ourselves…
'Oh I will just have that piece of cake OR 2!!'
'Maybe a couple of glasses of wine because I deserve it and it makes me feel BETTER'
'I need a cigarette to calm my nerves!'
'Can't be bothered to go to the Gym today, maybe tomorrow' but tomorrow never comes!!
I'm sure we have all experienced this?
This article has an exercise that you can use on yourself, in the comfort of your own home to help you release some of the triggers (negative feelings) you may be experiencing when you try to achieve your goals. The exercise was originally created by Richard Bandler (co-founder of NLP) and has been adapted slightly.
A healthy state of mind and body arises when energy flows without interruption through and out of the body. However, when we hold onto negative or suppressed emotional upsets, this stops the energy flow, which then eventually may lead to physical or mental symptoms. This exercise is designed to restore the flow of energy.
This is an emotional tool that you can use on yourself to release negative emotions, especially if you are holding onto any anxiety or sadness, and it will also help you to fulfill your goals. The benefits are noticeable immediately, often within minutes.
How to use this exercise:
Allow yourself some time in your busy day (20 minutes) to do this exercise, preferably at a time when you won't be disturbed.
Think of a specific, habituated response you would like to change, for example
A criticism by a person that causes you to feel upset, or brings up some negative emotions such as: anger, sadness, guilt, fear or hurt.
Maybe an event from the past where you had an argument or disagreement with someone and you are still reliving it over and over again in your mind.
Or a phrase that upsets you when you think about it, such as 'You're fat', 'You're useless'.
When you think about this event NOW it still makes you feel angry, hurt or upset.
Exercise
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NLP explores the relationships between how we think (neuro), how we communicate (linguistic) and our patterns of behaviour and emotion (programmes).
By studying and learning from these relationships, people can effectively transform the way they traditionally think and act, adopting new positive behaviours.
In effect, NLP is a powerful change management tool that transforms the way people think and act to have the greatest impact both professionally and personally. That's why NLP is one of the most powerful skills used in business management, psychology, sales, sports coaching and all forms of personal development.
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